A friend of mine that i work with found the article, Politically Incorrect Advice for Young Men and bookmarked it. I was focused on getting necessary work work done at the time, so i came back to it later. Much of what this article says i have been recognizing for years and is one of the big issues that i have with today's society. Femminism and our current mentality on love (stemming from the femminist movement) have taken over our society to such an extent that it prevents both men and women from reaching their real potential. There is a reason why so many men abandon their families and so many women are left to raise their kids as single moms.
Anyways this article is about the author's awakening and advice to young men and should really be taken seriously. I especially like what he said in point 7:
Society is addicted to sex. The atmosphere is sexualized. Human relationships have been degraded. The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married. Sexual liberation is not wanting sex (because you have it.)Understand, i do not fully agree with everything Mr. Makow states, especially in regards to his staying "Make work (not women) your passion". A man that is burried in his work with disregard for his wife and family is called a workaholic. I believe that you should make your work and your family your passions.
Anyways, this article has alot to say about the current state of our society and some of the falacies that pervade it. I recommend that you read it.
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I actually agree to some extent about the "addiction to sex" causing marriage difficulties, but I disagree in other ways. I think that people are too wrapped up in being infatuated, and when the infatuation inevitably wears off, people want to move on to someone else, rather than deepening the love that they should feel with their partners.
I strongly disagree, though, that "The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married." What happens when the sex addict gets married and doesn't get all the sex he wants? He'll probably go cheat. What happens when the gay person who's unable to admit to himself who he is gets married? Even if he doesn't stray, it's not fair to his innocent wife, who thought she was marrying a heterosexual.
It would be much better if people who just want to have sex would just have sex. I think it's stupid that all these NBA players (for example) get married and then proceed to have sex with hundreds of other women. If you want to have sex with multiple women, go ahead. Just don't get married. And use protection. Get a vasectomy, preferably. Telling people like that to get married is the WORST possible thing you could do to their future spouses and children.
The way to fight sex addiction is to realize that sex will never fill the hole inside of you. Just like drugs won't fill it and alcohol won't fill it and gambling won't fill it. You can't be happy by going after short-lived pleasures.
As for the article, I agree with some of it, but some is stupid, closed-minded advice.
"Do not marry a woman who doesn't make you and her family her first priority. Do you want to share your wife with her boss?" Here he implies that a wife having a job means that her family can't be her first priority. This is simply untrue. Are you saying that because you work, your family is your second priority?
I strongly disagree, though, that 'The best way to fight sex addiction is to get married.' What happens when the sex addict gets married and doesn't get all the sex he wants?
I agree with you on this. However, i think that what the author is talking about here is not so much that sexual addiction (that would be diagnosed by a counselor as sexual addiction) would not be resolved by marriage, but that the sexual addiction of the masses would be resolved much more if they got married.
Here he implies that a wife having a job means that her family can't be her first priority.
I think it's different for men than for women in this respect. There's a deeply ingrained need for a woman to take care of her family, as well as the family's deeply ingrained need for her to be there. I think that when a woman is working full time and has a family, oftentimes it wears on the woman and almost begins to tear at the family unit as a whole.
I don't think that a woman should not work outside of the home at all. Proverbs 31:24 in refering to the virtuous woman says; She makes fine linen and sells it, and delivers girdles to the merchants. Oftentimes i think women need that outside work and contact. But when that work comes at the expense of the family, it is unhealthy to the family as a whole.
I think that that's true of men as well, but i think that the point where it becomes detrimental is is very different. But, that again is a simplified view of what i believe.
I agree with jewish atheist and jcmasterpiece if they both are saying that being married is not a way to solve a sexual addiction. I am not sure I understand what jcmasterpiece is saying when he makes the comment "the sexual addiction of the masses would be resolved much more if they got married". A sexual addiction diagnosed or not is not healthy for the individual or the people around the addicted individual who suffer because of it. Denial is a strong coping mechanism but it doesn't protect those around it. I believe with all addictions that there is a choice to treat or not to treat and that decision is made by the addict and the addict only.
I'm guessing that what JC is trying to say is not that getting married will solve any sexual addictions, but that getting married will help deal with societies addiction or rather fascination with sex. I could be wrong, but thats what I took his comments to mean. I dont' think he was talking about an actual sexual addiction. But what do I know I'm only his wife. :)
Society is sexualizing our children at younger ages than ever before. Could this be part of the problem? When I was in elementary school we had dances in grade 8, now they start in grade 4! These children are 9 years old being put in social situations that they are not ready for.
The department and specialty stores are displaying fashions for our 8-11 year old girls that are scaled down versions for 20 year-olds, complete with thong underwear!
It comes down to parenting.
Personally I think a man or a woman's passion should be Jesus Christ first. It may not be a cure all for the other stuff but it sure can give a good grounding.
Just my opinion.
I agree Kim. Yesterday i was talking to one of the ladys in our office about her daughter. She commented that she was frustrated because her 8 year old daughter was acting like she was 13, and that when she was a child that wasn't how things happened. 8 year olds were 8 and their lives were very different from 13 year olds. I stated that i was not surprised and pointed out how much our society has become infatuated with sex and appearances and how it is being pushed on our children at a younger and younger age while being seen as healthy and acceptable.
JC - I saw your proviso that you don't agree with everything the author says, but personaly I couldn't get past the opening:
My life was dysfunctional until the age of 50 because I naively accepted the feminist assumptions purveyed by the mass media. I never imagined the financial elite is engaged in a war to destabilize society by trashing heterosexual roles. This hateful government attack on the traditional family continues unabated today. The purpose is to create a totalitarian New World Order where mind control replaces jackboot.
Lemme break it down:
- The mass media does not cater to feminists assumptions. Name me one real female protaganist (no, the actresses in VIP don't count), and I'll find you five Al Bundys.
- The financial elite is trashing heterosexual roles? For each George Soros on the left, I'll find you a WallMart heir, Texas Oil Republican, and an arch conservative Media Mogul.
- Whenever I see the phrase "New World Order" being used without sarcasm, I just think "Looney".
And then towards the end there's this gem:
Our fertility lasts three times as long as theirs. We are the buyers. There are plenty of fine women, especially if we look abroad.
Which makes me wonder whether he's talking about his Russian mail-order bride, or a Bangcock streetwalker he 'bought' for a few minutes.
personaly I couldn't get past the opening
That does not surprise me in the slightest.
funny.
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